The needs of others can seem endless. We wake up fatigued, yet we soldier on; focusing all of our care and attention on the people & problems around us.

We do not have time for meditation or mindfulness, so we switch into autopilot to deal with our chores and projects. We prioritize family and work first, and leave ourselves for last… if we ever get that far down the list.

Everyone burns the candle at both ends from time to time.

We have all been taught that to give is selfless, and to place oneself before others is selfish. We associate unflagging selflessness with goodness, and are told offering up our energy and happiness to others is the path to grace.

I disagree.

I find the idea of selflessness very unsatisfactory, and reeking of martyrdom. Consider this idea: we can treat others well, and support those in need better when we take the time to nourish and satiate ourselves – in body and spirit.

The season of giving is about to begin, but you cannot forget to give to yourself. The holidays should be celebrated with laughter and cheer, instead of exhaustion! So for today, let’s find out what you really need, and help you make a commitment to giving to yourself.

Listen to today’s audio to check in with yourself emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. This exercise will help you discover the truth about where you are on the map of your life.

Do you give to yourself enough? What are some ways you’ve brought yourself back to focus with your own self-care? I’d love to hear your ideas & experiences.