Sometimes… we just don’t want to make a decision.
We’re terrified by the impact it may have on our lives. So we dilly-dally through the day, distracting ourselves, avoiding the sensitive issue at hand. We look to others for advice and support. We pour money, time, and energy into orchestrated attempts to quash the reality of making the choice.
Decisions can make us feel as if we will be torn apart, or that the cost is so high that we will be devastated for the rest of our lives.
If you are at that spot between a rock and a hard place, have courage. I know it is not easy – I have been in that spot many times as well. Take your time, and make that space bigger, big enough to breathe and remember your wholeness.
Decisions can be reframed as choices whose purpose (on the deepest level) is to reconnect, nourish, and grow our sense of wholeness. Whether that decision is about staying in a relationship or starting a new business, the question must circle back to the self.
“Does choosing this way help me to grow? How? How do I feel and how do I want to feel?”
For today’s meditation, let us make space for big decisions!
Take a couple of deep breaths into your body, and close your eyes. Breathe into your body, and allow your senses to turn within so that you can feel the life within you, the goodness in your cells, the knowing that is in your bones, and in your heart.
Come in a little bit closer still, deeper still, to the stillness within you where the decision has already been made; a place of pure consciousness. As you find your place in this stillness, allow the pull of anxiety to fade into the background, and let your senses be bathed in the energy of non-duality – no good or bad, no right or wrong.
Breathe, and sit in the tranquility within you. Allow yourself to drift in your consciousness until you feel nourished and rested, and all the the neurons & synapses in your brain and body remember the connectedness, and feel the wholeness. From this place, you can come to your decision as your whole self – the self that will neither be destroyed by a decision, nor made by it.
You already are a whole, warm, tender, loving, loved, and kind being; and the decision is just one seed or direction that you explore.
When you feel that knowing presence of wholeness within you, take a couple of deep breaths and open your eyes.
Good decisions are made better decisions when they are made from a place of wholeness, and we feel the depth of our being anchoring within.