I am so pleased to be back and once again connecting with you. Although I know it has only been a few weeks, it feels ages. I hope this message finds you well and in good spirits.

I’m excited to share that I’ve been on a journey of self-discovery (when am I not!!) and have been reflecting on my past behaviors. Specifically, I’ve been exploring some avoidant tendencies that I’ve noticed in myself. It’s been a challenging, but ultimately rewarding process to uncover the deeper mechanics of seemingly harmless behaviors.

Avoidant behaviors, or in simpler terms, the many ways in which we avoid doing things, are a common struggle for many people. Whether it’s avoiding social situations, procrastinating on tasks, or pushing away emotions, these behaviors can have a significant impact on our daily lives and relationships.

At their core, avoidant behaviors are often rooted in fear – fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of vulnerability. These fears can cause us to retreat and avoid situations that make us uncomfortable or uncertain, even if they are ultimately beneficial for us in the long run.

But while avoidance might provide temporary relief, it often comes at a cost. We miss out on opportunities for growth and connection, and our avoidance can reinforce negative beliefs about ourselves and the world around us.

So, how can we start to break free from avoidant behaviors and live a more fulfilling life?

One important step is to start practicing self-awareness. Pay attention to the situations or emotions that trigger your avoidance, and try to identify the underlying fears that are driving it. This can help you to challenge those fears and develop more adaptive coping strategies.

Another helpful approach is to start small and build up gradually. If you’re avoiding a particular task or activity, try breaking it down into smaller, more manageable steps. This can help to reduce the overwhelming feelings of anxiety and give you a sense of accomplishment as you make progress.

It’s also important to remember that change is a process, and it won’t happen overnight. Be kind to yourself and celebrate the small victories along the way.

Finally, don’t be afraid to reach out for support. Whether it’s a trusted friend or a mental health professional, having someone to talk to can make all the difference in overcoming avoidant behaviors

Avoidant behaviors can be a significant challenge, but they are not insurmountable. With self-awareness, patience, and support, we can learn to confront our fears and live a more fulfilling life.
If you’re feeling stuck or struggling with avoidant behaviors, I’m here to help. Let’s work together to identify your goals and develop a plan to achieve them. Whether it’s through coaching, or simply a supportive conversation, we can create a safe space for you to explore and grow.

Remember, you don’t have to face this alone. Let’s start the journey towards a more fulfilling life. Get in touch with me today and let’s take that first step together!

If you are not quite ready to fully dive in, please test the waters by join us this Saturday at 11am Mountain time (1PM Easter, 10AM Pacific.) for a free guided meditation.